Hmm, what else could I do to encourage his manliness and leadership position that I was trying to hand over to him?
I realized I needed to stop telling him to ask my father before making huge decisions for our family. My husband is wise, smart, cautious. Sure, he should seek council before making huge decisions, but who he seeks advice from should be up to him. I was always saying, “Call my dad,” “Ask my dad first.” I would encourage him to talk with whomever he trusted. If that ended up being my dad, then great, but it would be my husband’s decision with whom he would ask.
And now for the major decision I decided to hand over to him.
“Dan, I want you to decide where we are going to move,” I said, and this time I meant it.
“Are you sure?” he asked me.
“Yes, Dan, I am sure. There is no one I would trust more.”
He could probably decide the best place for me and the kids better than I could. And it would be okay; he could be trusted. And so I handed over the biggest decision for my life at that time. Surprisingly, I felt a little bit relieved, and at the same time, I felt a little sorry for him to have to be in charge of such a major decision to make, but I could tell it was what he wanted. What he needed. Now lead, my hunk of a man. Lead.
I could have sworn at that moment he sat up straighter, raised his shoulders, and lifted his chin. The manliness was flowing back into him. I think his muscles even swelled beneath his shirt because it looked like his shirt got tighter.
And his top shirt button popped open revealing just a little bit more chest hair.
I would have to say, leadership makes a man more sexy.
And more muscular.
You know, allowing a husband to lead is a process. It’s like learning a new dance. Toes will be stepped on. Limbs will fall out of place. Sometimes he will be going one way, I another. But after time, our steps will align, and we will create, hand in hand, a dance that is just right for us. An elegant, beautiful, time tested dance of love. Together. With his leadership prompting my every next move. And me feeling safe and secure knowing that he is my lead.
Oh to learn life's dance with you, my husband.
Our unique, beautiful dance of love.