Wednesday, May 11, 2011


Everyone has anchors.  Anchors are what keep us living in a particular place.  Anchors can be friends, family, a job, a life style, a home, anything special that keeps you in a specific area. 

My anchors are my people.  I have heard that there are two types of people, people who are like dogs, who don’t care where they are as long as they are with their people.  Then there are people who are like cats.  They are connected to a place and are happy and comfortable as long as they are in their “place”.  I am like the dog.  I can’t leave my people, and I would never consider it, but things have been slowly changing over the years, shifting my anchors a bit. 

I have found one thing to be certain in life:  change.  And as much as we fight it, go to bat against it, run from it, change will eventually rear its head and demands its course upon our lives. 

At this exact time in my life, my relationships have been shifting, changing without my realization.  When I did realize it, it was too late.  

The foundation that I have built my life upon is becoming shaky.  I hold my hands out, trying to regain my balance, but to no avail.       

My friendships with the people with whom I have been best friends for 15 years are changing, growing apart, and all participants have done everything in their power to stop it.  The very thing I have been holding onto so tightly has begun to shift and alter within the hand I am holding it.  The tighter I squeeze, the more shifting takes place.  One of the main anchors that has kept me from moving has become unsteady.  Life is running its course, and I am attempting to stand firm in its way.  

I agonize over even considering leaving my most precious relationships, but at the same time, I feel as if my heart has been pulling away from them no matter how hard I fight against it.

Sometimes I think, and deep down I know, that there is a bigger hand at play.

To understand the depths of these relationships, a bit of history must be revealed.


  1. I never really thought about anchors before. But as I think about it, it's true. We have always talked about moving somewhere else for better quality of life, but it has never become more than a wishful conversation...because of our anchors. We have so much family here, friends that we've had for more than half our lives, my husband has a job that he loves, and we have a church that is becoming like a family to us. It would be too hard to leave, even though moving might be good for our family. But, I'm thankful we have anchors. They are good. They are what keep us committed and secure.
    When anchors change, it's hard. When family leaves you, or a job change has happened, or friendships aren't the same, it can be heart-wrenching. When the plan for our lives is somehow turned around or going a whole different direction than we would have ever imagined, it hurts. But there is a bigger hand at play, and I have found that it is His plan that is the best.

  2. Its actually funny! My anchors have always been my friends and co-workers. I've been struggling lately with changing that anchor to my family. I often times think that others matter more then they really do. I would like to get to the point where I can say, yes...lets move, as long as I have my family, I am good..... My husband and I have talked about the idea of moving elsewhere one day, and we both always come back and say, "no...this that and the other thing is here". I've been working REALLY hard trying to better myself the past few months, rid myself of all the "extra" things in my life that take away from my husband and son. Your blog gets me thinking...I want to be the best mom and wife possible, yet at times I wonder if i will ever get to the point where i feel like i am giving my best! thanks for getting me thinking!

  3. I totally, totally relate. My anchor was Texas. Forever. We were transferred to Arizona three years ago. We were sure we'd move back to Texas. Sure. We just bought a house in Arizona. And then. My husband was layed off. So far away from my Anchor. But you are so right. Change is Certain. God wants us here for a reason. I don't understand right now. And that's ok.

    Hugs to you new friend!

  4. Wow. I can SO relate to this. Thank you for expressing this so well... it's nice to know that I am not alone.