The fact is:
I am not living my life around the people and things that I value the most.
To be able to change I need to figure out where I am spending all of my focused time and energy.
I then decided to take a look at my values.
I drew three large twigs hanging from it. I wrote my values above each twig God, husband, and kids. I added a bonus twig titled “Time for myself” because if I don’t have that then I end up going crazy.
I needed to do some pruning. It isn’t that I am doing unnecessary things with my time. Some of the things I am doing like laundry need to be done, can’t be cut, and don’t have a place under one of my values. I came up with a name for these, the uncuttables: laundry, cooking, cleaning, brushing teeth. I don’t like them. I don’t want to do them, but they need to be done. I can’t cut them even if I want to.