Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Our Busy Life Style is Taking a Toll



I think I added too much to my plate.

While attempting to mother three small children, I was the leader of the moms’ group at my church.  I started a part time out of the home business that took off and began to become very time consuming.  All three of my children have allergies to different foods, which made cooking a great challenge.  My son started waking up in the middle of the night to throw up.  I thought he had the flu, but this occurrence continued for months.  I was also, on occasion, being woken up in the middle of the night by my other child who was dealing with the constant pain of his eczema.  

My husband was working 15 hour days.

I had a hard time going to sleep at night, and often I woke up in the middle of the night to throw up myself. 

If that wasn't enough lack of sleep, every morning I was awoken by lovely beams of the sun shining in my face, which would wake me way before it was time to start the day.

Could it be that I was overwhelmed?  Duh.

My heart palpitations seemed to be more frequent.

Talk about stress.  And when you are stressed who feels it the most besides you?  For me it is my husband and children, that’s who.  I know it must have been taking a toll on them.  And I wondered what they were being taught by this go go go lifestyle?

I couldn’t keep my house clean.  I couldn’t keep up with the laundry.  My kids hair wasn’t brushed.  My hair wasn’t brushed.  Their teeth weren’t brushed either, but that’s o.k. because the first set of teeth are just there to practice on, or so I thought.  The dentist just told me that that isn’t true….$600 later.  Great.  Add brushing onto my list of things to do.   

I began to live just to get through each day.  In the back of my mind a little voice of hope comforted me, “Night time will soon be near and I will get to watch t.v.!  Is Office on tonight?  Maybe "Dancing with the Stars"?”  There is always some kind of reality show to hold my interest.

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Dan walked through the front door, home from a 9 hour work day.  He was about to get started working on his side business. 

“Why are we doing this?”  He looked at me with fatigue in his eyes, really expecting an answer.

I answered while sighing deeply, “I don’t know.”

I couldn’t help but to agree with him.  Why are we living life at this pace?  What are we doing to ourselves?  To our children? 

We both could see what was coming.

We needed a major change. 

In the back of my mind, I hoped I wouldn’t be waking up nauseous in the middle of the night again.

5 comments:

  1. I'm sorry life has been so busy for you! I hope you find a way to have things slow down for you so you can enjoy more things. :) Hugs to you. ~Natalie

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  2. The man that wrote "Smart Couples Finish Rich", I can't remember his name but in his book he said our our actions and out values have to add up. If you say family is my number one value and I want a big house for my family, but then you spend all your time working to pay for the house, so you never see your family. It does not make sense.

    Maybe you need to look into what changes you can make so you can enjoy your life.

    Ask for help from friends, get a house cleaner (even once a month can help), pick one day a week to batch cook food.

    Use your village, let people help you. I could not make it without the help of my village I have learned to ask for help.

    best,

    elena

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  3. One more thing. Schedule in time for yourself. I go to the gym there is a day care there, it is often the only time I am not responsible for my kids during the day.

    Even if it means setting an alarm so you get 10 minutes to yourself with no distractions, have a cup of tea or meditate. Give yourself a moment.

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  4. These are great ideas! Thanks for sharing.

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  5. Wow, it is amazing how fast our lives can get out of control! Even with good things! I can't even imagine throwing 3 kids with food allergies into the mix. I know how consuming it is just to have one. Both my boys have problems with this, but thankfully they seem to take turns being affected. When he was little my older son would wake up at night crying and bleeding from where he'd scratched his eczema raw. I feel for you!
    Thank you, by the way, for taking the time to come to my blog and comment! I hope you have a happy and relaxed weekend!

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